The perfect time to let go is now. It’s always beneficial to let go of past hurts and emotions plus shed your skin and re-emerge as the newer, more authentic you. Whether it’s letting go of the past, old beliefs, or the ego, begin to learn how to let go now.
Keep reading for tips and strategies on how to do just that.
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Most are aware of Idina Menzel’s powerful and lovely voice when she sang Let It Go for the Disney character Elsa in Frozen. Elsa’s secret was discovered and she didn’t have to hide who she was anymore. She let go of trying to be someone else (the good girl) and could finally let go of the past and be herself:
“I’m never going back, the past is in the past
Let it go
The cold never bothered me anyway
Let it go, let it go
And I’ll rise like the break of dawn
Let it go, let it go
That perfect girl is gone”Let It Go from Frozen
There’e an excellent scene in Peaceful Warrior that symbolizes Dan fighting and then finally letting go of his ego. Jump to 2:22 in this clip:
At one point his ego screams at him, “Do you know who you are?” To me, that points to the importance of knowing yourself, which is slightly off-topic, but not really. Learning to know what is going on internally leads us to know what needs to be let go of.
So, why do we hang on to the past?
Why Do We Hang On?
Hanging on to old, stale stuff will drag you down and use up your energy, but most of us do it all the same. Why? Simple, old is familiar and comfortable, even if it is painful.
Untying yourself from past events and old hurts means change and stepping into a new chapter of life. Walking into the unknown can be very uncomfortable and leave us feeling vulnerable. But ask yourself this. Wouldn’t you rather get uncomfortable and push through so that you can walk in your empowerment and towards your dream life?
Yes? Let’s go!
The Best 7 Steps To Start Letting Go
1. Forgive Everybody (including you)
2. Move Your Focus To Now
3. Be Vulnerable
4. Get Comfortable Being Uncomfortable
5. Make Friends With Your Subconscious
6. Start Taking Life And Yourself Less Seriously
7. Stop Reading About How To Let Go And Start TAKING ACTION.
Let’s take a peek at these in more detail.
Forgive Everybody (Including You)
Holding on to unforgiveness is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. it’s an old but true adage. In other words, it is of NO benefit to hold on to unforgiveness, as it will eat away at you. Recognize what has happened and how you feel. Process your emotions, work through them, move on, and let go of un-forgiveness. You will feel lighter.
This first step in itself will improve your well being and peace of mind before you have even started on the other steps. That is why it is number 1.
Move Your Focus To Now
When you are thinking about past events and how someone hurt you or how you hurt them you are feeding it your attention. Doing that will make it grow bigger. As it grows bigger, it affects you more and sucks the life out of you.
Stop focusing on the past and save your energy for creating the future you want TODAY.
Do this by practicing mindfulness and focus your attention on this day and live in the present.
Know and accept you may be vulnerable when you step into the unknown, and you leave your old baggage at the door. Stop avoiding the fear of being judged or hurt or that you may “fail”.
I put fail in quotes because you can’t fail as such. Look at it like this, you’ll do things that won’t work out. Especially when you make changes and try new things. So what? Learn from it and carry on.
You will only fail if you decide to do nothing at all.
Get Comfortable Being Uncomfortable
Working through emotions, forgiving, and making changes can get uncomfortable. Push through because that feeling of being uncomfortable will pass and you will move forward to where you want to be.
Make Friends With Your Subconscious
The subconscious mind holds all your beliefs, thoughts, and past experiences. Like a sponge, it has soaked up everything from the moment you were born. Its job is to ensure your life aligns up and supports those beliefs and thoughts, regardless of whether they are negative or positive.
What that means is this. You had an experience twenty years ago where you painted a picture in class and you put a lot of effort into creating it. Then, your teacher basically pulled it apart by criticizing it. You immediately felt upset and believed: “I can’t paint”.
Your subconscious took in the whole experience, what happened, how you felt and what you believed about it.
From that moment on, as much as you want to paint, you can’t. Your subconscious is always working in the background and it has been programmed with “I can’t paint”. So, doing its job, it ensures you can’t paint.
That is a small example of how the subconscious works but you can replace the example with anything.
The important take away here is to not be annoyed with your subconscious and instead do the opposite. Make friends with it, because when you do you can work together to change what you want, which includes letting go of past hurts and negative beliefs.
Start Taking Life & Yourself Less Seriously
Being able to laugh at yourself and life is important. Tension and stress is released when we laugh. Relax into your life and take one day at a time.
Stop Reading & Start TAKING ACTION
You can read about letting go and changing your life until you’re blue in the face but nothing will happen until you pull your finger out! 😲
Tools To Use To Let Go
I will point out here that this blog is for information and entertainment purposes only and not medical or professional healthcare advice.
So, depending on what you want to focus on, here are some tips:
You may know what you want to let go of already but if not you can start to explore and get to know how you tick by becoming mindful of your actions, thoughts, and feelings.
Start journalling to capture what you discover and this will begin to help you understand what to work on and let go of.
You can release emotions with:
- The Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) – this therapy uses tapping the different meridian points to release emotions
- Online Therapy – contact a qualified therapist to create a plan on how to let go and move on. (You can do this anonymously).
3. RE-PROGRAM YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS
Begin re-programming your subconscious with positive, beneficial beliefs and thoughts, and let go of the old, negative ones. Start with any of the following (click them to find out more):
It's Okay To Not Know
Letting go means being willing to allow yourself to be taken along on a new adventure, one that will lead to a more fulfilled life and an authentic you.
Let go of the old you, the old subconscious programs, the old beliefs and ego.
It’s okay to not know. You don’t have to have all the answers. You can move forward into the unknown and express yourself in the new and vulnerable you.
Vulnerability is strength, not weakness.
Insecurity and uncertainty, don’t let it shake you
Get comfortable being uncomfortable and keep moving forward
Don’t settle for anything less than you deserve because you are worth it! 😉
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