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Self-Sabotage - This Is Why You Don't Even Know You Are Doing it!
Whenever I saw the word self-sabotage, I used to dismiss it. In the back of my mind, I would say to myself, what is self-sabotage about anyway? Meanwhile, not pay that much attention to it. You know how sometimes you read something but don’t know fully what it means? Therefore, when I heard people in the personal growth arena talking about getting out your own way as the antidote to self-sabotage, I didn’t get that either.
Little did I know at the time that I was indeed self-sabotaging myself every which way. I have no idea why I didn’t take note earlier. It matters not.
What does matter is eventually I did smell the coffee of the not so sweet self-sabotage.
Now, if (like I used to) you usually skim over this subject or completely ignore it, I say STOP!
Ask yourself: Do I repeat the same old patterns of behavior over and over? Do I find it hard to change? Does change happen but only temporarily?
If you answered yes to all or one of the above questions, for the love of lemons please read on!
You will be pleased that you did. Trust me.
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The Meaning Of Self-Sabotage
Keeping it super simple, self-sabotage means – the person who keeps messing things up for themselves. Usually unknowingly.
That’s the clincher right there, right? Usually unknowingly.
So, if this is all new to you, feel better about the whole thing now. You didn’t know what you didn’t know.
So getting out your own way makes sense now. Because if you are the one who is sabotaging you, then if you get out of your own way you will stop the sabotage.
Here’s one (of a few) self-sabotage experience of mine.
Sabotaging yourself can be seen in a variety of ways. Whether you self-sabotage by continually attracting partners into your life that are unhealthy. Or you keep piling on the pounds when you want to lose weight. Maybe you can’t stop drinking alcohol every day but you really want. You’ve tried but it just doesn’t stick.
Let me tell you a story.
Once upon a time, there was a woman who tried to stop smoking numerous times. She succeeded in stopping many times. But then started again. The last time she restarted was after stopping for 3 years. Why oh why she wailed to herself? Why is there something important that I want to change in my life, not staying changed?
By the way, if you didn’t already know that was me in the story.
It’s not an uncommon tale especially with stopping smoking. But why is that? I can only tell you about my experience as it is true for me. I struggled for years on and off. I was definitely in the self-sabotage loop. I got out of the loop once I understood my behavior.
Understanding why I self-sabotaged was the beginning of escaping it. From there I learned how to change that behavior by applying techniques.
Even though self-sabotage can be seen in different shapes and forms I think the thing that stopped me from doing it could work for anyone.
For you, it would be a case of suck it and see.
Why Do People Self-Sabotage? - It's All In Your Mind
I self-sabotaged myself again and again with my efforts to stop smoking. The reason for that was that I held negative beliefs in my subconscious mind about it. I had absolutely no idea about this until I discovered this insight and then did the work to remove those non-beneficial beliefs.
The thing is if your subconscious beliefs and thoughts do not support what you are trying to do (e.g. in my example stop smoking) then you will just go back to your old ways. It’s just a matter of time. That’s what the subconscious does. It makes sure that you do what you are programmed to do.
The answer is to find out what the old programs (old limiting beliefs) are, pull them out and reprogram your subconscious with beliefs that do support what you want to do.
I did exactly that. And it worked.
Not only that but I have used the same method to change numerous things in my life.
Overcoming Self-Sabotage - 3 Steps To Success
If you take a long hard look at your life, is it possible that you may be experiencing self-sabotage?
Nodding your head? Okay, read on.
Know that you can literally change your mind (subconscious that is) to change your life by:
- Identifying the old programs (self-limiting beliefs) in your subconscious.
- Creating new programs (positive beliefs) that support what you want to achieve.
- Reprogramming your subconscious by deleting the old programs and replace with your new programs (your supporting affirmations).
Getting Out Of Your Own Way - Once And For All!
As I write this it’s coming up to another 3 years smoke-free. It’s different this time. My mind is strong.
I mentioned that it’s not the only thing I’ve changed in my life because of changing my mind. For instance, this blog that you are reading now is evidence of that.
There is no way that I would have learned how to create a website let alone write a blog if I hadn’t changed my old beliefs. Why? Because I would have told myself that (1) it’s too difficult to learn or (2) who do you think you are, you can’t do that.
You see my friends, that’s why I write the things I write here. It’s a two-way street. Pointing people in the right direction to live a better life is excellent for you and me. You start a better life for yourself, and I have people reading my blog. Win-win.
What is self-sabotage about? It’s about realizing YOU are the one getting in your own way.
Take a step forward towards achieving the things you want now.
Here’s to getting out your own way – once and for all!
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